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Bitch’in Suburbia’s Guide to Your Best Year Yet!

Are you ready to have your best year yet?

A wise woman once told me that the magic amount of time for anything significant to occur is one year.

One year to get used to a new neighborhood.

One year to get out of the infant woods into the forest of personhood possibility.

One year of grief and mourning.

One year with a romantic partner and the relationship is something real, a keeper.

One year from dalliance to hobby to practice to commitment.

One year ago, I wrote my first Bitch’in Suburbia blog post.

The inspiration was a recently completed novel and a desire to get it published. But authors need a platform before anyone will take them seriously. So just like teaching your kid to read to get a jump on Kindergarten or naming your baby “Beckham” to ensure s/he’s not a bench warmer on the peewee soccer team, I launched Bitch’in Suburbia. The marketing vehicle for the in utero book.

That was then, this is now.

Actually, nothing has changed in terms of the ORIGINAL goal. I just like to say, “that was then, this is now” — it reminds me of S.E. Hinton, one of my all-time fave writers.

I’ve still got the “project awaiting a publisher” and am doing the legwork to figure out next steps. A lot of people are in the same boat, as so many industries these days are stuck in their own special kind of Internet quicksand: the minute you think you have your footing is exactly when you are least stable.

And yet, a funny thing happened on the way to being a published book author.

I became a self-publishing machine. Every week like clockwork, I gave myself a Monday-morning writing prompt. And every Friday as promised, I posted an 800-1,000-word piece.

I say that I’m not a mommy blogger, but when I look back, most of my posts are about the ins and outs of parenthood. Write what you know, they say. And it turns out that a lot of the peeps I connect with know what I know. And they feel what I do, too.

This, it turns out, has been the joy of writing this blog. It has pushed me out of my lazy zone, into a place of conscious creation and daily connection. It forces me to be social, to check in with people, to show my face(book), tweet, even go Google+. I’m working my way up to a hang out there, too.

Best of all, it’s given me a special purpose. And you know I believe in the power of special purpose.

But this is not about me. This is about you.

What’s it gonna take for you to have your best year yet?

This is a very important question, one that begs a very inspired, scientific approach to carefully charting your court to get exactly what you say you want.

OK, I’m kidding — well, about the scientific approach anyways. I prefer a much looser technique to identify your true dreams and figure out how actually attaining them can fit into the fantasy called your life.

Before bedtime each night, my mom would ask me to give her three things, and then she would tell me a story using those three items. Of course I’d struggle to find the craziest, most difficult things that didn’t seem to have anything to do with one and other. But she always found a way to tie them together in a unique, creative adventure. The process wasn’t always quick or smooth, but in the end, it always made perfect sense.

So here are your three things:

What do you really want? Dig deep and be real. It can be really big things, like world peace, or something small(er), like losing five pounds. Write that goal down, change your login passwords to the key word, put it right in front of your face so you have to stare it down at least a few times a day.

How will you get it? This is an excellent question, with probably a million different passable replies. But I’m gonna help you cheat on this one, as there’s only one right answer. Persistence.

Shit, that sounds like work, I dunno… If you really want what you say you want, the problem won’t be lack of passion, joy, spirit, or enthusiasm. Because if you lack any of that in your pursuit of the thing you say you want, then perhaps you should go back to that first question. (What do you really want?) Remember what Buddha said: “There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.” And to that your Bitch will always add, perfect isn’t necessary. Showing up for yourself and fighting for a life that is authentic to you is all it takes.

Now…. develop your story!

And know that it’s going to continue to evolve, and that’s fine. If you need someone to bounce ideas off of, I’m here. Seriously, I am so floored by the kindness and generosity of my bitches that have read and shared my blog this year. I am grateful for the time you’ve given me, and I’d like to return the favor. So send me an email, write a comment on this blog, Facebook me, Tweet me,  ask me to hang out in Googleland, and it’s ON!

Now that you’re on your way to having your best year yet, here’s my annual gift to you (first published in the inaugural Bitch’in Suburbia post on March 23, 2012):


I call it Vice Mousse, cuz it has booze, coffee, and chocolate all in one delicious frothy concoction.

Note: I double this recipe when I make it for a crowd. There’s usually enough leftover to eat it by the fistful late at night when everyone’s asleep. And if a person eats by the light of the fridge and nobody sees it, there’s no caloric intake. You’re welcome.

6 squares semisweet chocolate
2 squares unsweetened chocolate
½ cup honey
3-½ scant teaspoons instant coffee
3-½ tablespoons Triple Sec orange liquor (Cointreau is my preference – use the leftovers for delicious Squeeze My Lemons martinis)
2 cups heavy whipping cream (or 3 cups if you like to make your own whipped cream to top the mousse with)
A small container of Cool Whip (if you prefer your whipped topping as I do in a durable, paraffin-based format that lasts and lasts… probably until the next millennium)

Melt the semisweet and unsweetened chocolate together in a double boiler. Once it’s melted, add the honey.
Dissolve the coffee in the orange liquor, add it to the chocolate/honey mix, and then put the chocolate/honey/liquor/coffee concoction into a big bowl. Let it cool completely.
Whip two cups of heavy cream.
Fold the whipped cream into the fully cooled chocolate mixture, transfer into a nice glass bowl for serving, and then let the whole thing set in the fridge for at least an hour or more if possible.
Garnish with Cool Whip (or whipped cream) and semisweet chocolate shavings.

ENJOY! Thanks for being my bitch… and allowing me to be yours. And don’t forget to leave a comment!

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  • Reply 100002567382066 March 22, 2013 at 6:28 pm

    WHOOO HOOO! Awesome post, per usual! Here’s to many more years to come!

  • Reply Hillary Carlip March 22, 2013 at 6:28 pm

    WHOOO HOOO! Awesome post, per usual! Here's to many more years to come!

  • Reply 782729437 March 22, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Happy anniversary!

  • Reply Kim Dart Hurwitz March 22, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Happy anniversary!

  • Reply 1494890622 March 23, 2013 at 3:18 am

    Congrats! 🙂 XO

    • Reply Trudi March 23, 2013 at 7:41 am

      thanks!! XO

  • Reply Cheri Cook March 23, 2013 at 3:18 am

    Congrats! 🙂 XO

  • Reply 1390636806 March 23, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    Congrats and happy anniversary!!!

  • Reply Tom Boulet March 23, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    Congrats and happy anniversary!!!

  • Reply 560733536 March 24, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    Wise, witty and so enjoyable… then you had me with the Chocolate Mousse! Best of luck, Trudi, xo.

  • Reply Susan Nathanson March 24, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    Wise, witty and so enjoyable… then you had me with the Chocolate Mousse! Best of luck, Trudi, xo.

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